I find myself thinking a lot about grief lately. Don’t get me wrong, not in a bad way, but how people grieve. I know everyone grieves differently and it’s not always over death. Something that stands out to me from interviewing Amber Chin, is that she truly understands what it’s like to grieve. She seems so resilient now, but she will be quick to tell you that it was quite the battle to overcome grief. I haven’t personally had many losses in my life. I count it a blessing too. I remember when each of my grandparents died and feeling really sad. I probably grieved the most when my dad’s mom passed away. We all called her Nanny. She had such a sweet spirit about her. She promised to take me shopping when I returned home from college… well she passed away before then so when I see her in Heaven I’m going to hold her to it. Ha ha!!
Seriously, though, I can only imagine what it’s like to lose a close loved one. The pain, the heartache and the lack of motivation that comes along with grief is devastating. The one thing I do know about grief is that you need to give yourself permission to grieve and time to heal. I remember grieving the fact I was going to move away from a place I loved to an absolute unknown after I got married. I knew I was supposed to marry my husband, Eric. (Swoon) NO DOUBT THERE. But, I was still going to an unknown. I was going to miss my family and friends. It may seem petty to some, but I think some of you can relate. I recently figured out that I really don’t like change. Did I mention this before?? It’s still a new thing for me to admit this. Even if it’s a good change it’s hard for me to process it. I’ve learned to give myself permission to change. It helps the process. Now I firmly believe and claim the scripture, Romans 8:28 when it says all things work together for good …. I’m not saying all things are good, but we can learn from everything that happens to us. It is our response to the circumstances that make us stronger.
Amber’s clear passion is to take her pain to bless others. She really caused me to stop and reflect on those words. As she shared her story of pain and brokenness, I could see how God was allowing something beautiful to form. That’s really what it’s all about. Taking your pain to bless others. I want to thank Amber for those words of importance. We should ALL take our pain to bless others; whether we have suffered a great loss, anxiety and/or depression. I can’t wait for you all to hear her episode if you haven’t heard it already. There is a HUGE spark inside of Amber that is ready to shine. She loves helping people. Let me pause right now and ask you, when was the last time you helped someone? You will often hear me say that you should invest in three people a day. I didn’t come up with this, but I’ve practiced this for a couple years now. You should try it. It becomes contagious.
Life in Purple isn’t just to make you feel good. It’s not even to make me feel good. (Even though we talk about how feelings are a gift and it’s a SUPER POWER!! Ha ha!)
Life in Purple is all about Beauty in Brokenness. This is a place where we can build a community of loving people who treat others the way they want to be treated. It is my hope that You ALL can conquer the negative voice inside and learn how to love your own self. I’m not talking about pride, but the importance of taking care of yourself so you can GIVE to others.
I asked Amber if she ever told herself she wasn’t good enough. She said absolutely!! All of the guests that I have had the pleasure of interviewing so far have all said this. It’s okay if you’ve said this, but now it’s time to change your mind. I know it’s not easy, but with practice you will become stronger: That’s why I think, along with daily scripture reading and prayer, you should say affirmations. I’m going to borrow some of Amber’s …. “I can make good choices, and I have great worth”…. These are just a couple she mentions. I often say, “I will not be shaken.”
Some of you may be grieving this very moment. And that’s okay. Let it hurt. Cry. Reflect on the positive memories. And Find a good support system.
It’s God’s love and Grace that Amber mentions to us that helped her heal.
I don’t want to give it all away… but one last thing that stands out to me is a portion from one of her quotes… “theworst thing is not the last thing….’
There is hope.
And to learn more about Amber Chin she’s on Facebookunder Amber May Chin.
She will be doing a webinar this Thursday evening Oct 8. Check her fan page out for more details.
Listen to the Interview here!
Let me know your thoughts. Looking forward to hearing how you are living your LIFE IN PURPLE. What you say is what you become.
Be sure to visit the Life in Purple website to meet more people who are living Life in Purple!