Many of you have probably faced some pretty tough obstacles; or you are facing some tough one’s right now. Maybe you’re thinking that you wished your circumstances were easier?? Have you all read my earlier post on “Lesson’s Learned”? One of the lessons I mentioned is “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better; don’t wish it were easier, pray for or wish for more skills.” I know this is a DIFFERENT way of thinking, however, it is the better way of thinking.
Today’s Episode is with National Speaker, Musician, Author, Blogger and Teacher, Jenny Simmons. Some of you may know her from Addison Road, a very successful band that traveled and sang at many concerts, opening for many other artists. But that’s not what this blog is about. This blog is about, OVERCOMING OBSTACLES.
I have had the pleasure of meeting Jenny a couple months back. Amber Chin (another guest of Life in Purple) noticed that Jenny was going to be having a concert in my area and said, “You’ve got to go meet her!” I am so glad I did. I was drawn into her singing and her story telling. I pretty much cried the whole time. (In a good way, a soul cleansing way) My sister in law also went with me and she was doing the same. We couldn’t look at each other because we would cry even harder. When I heard Jenny share her story, I knew that LIPTalk Nation needed to hear it too.
Jenny mentions in her book, “The Road to Becoming”, that she used just about anything as a microphone (during her child hood) to practice her singing. How great is that!! She admits always having a love for music and wanted to be able to share music with everyone. In fact, when she finally heard herself on the radio, for the first time, she had to do a reality check and ask herself if it was real, because she constantly found herself saying “Next”. As her journey continued, Addison Road gained popularity and their music quickly became requested songs on the radio. (with several number one hits)
About a decade into her career, the band began to face many obstacles. I don’t want to give it all away, but I found myself say, “NO WAY, FOUR TIMES!!!!” Jenny and her band, lost their equipment FOUR TIMES in ONE YEAR. From being stolen to literally blowing up in flames, Jenny found herself in tears and not having enough money to buy diapers for her daughter. You see, not only did their equipment blow up in flames but pretty much everything they owned. They lost their vehicle, equipment, food, clothes and all their daughters possessions in that fire. I can only imagine what I would be thinking if this happened to me. “What are you trying to tell me, God?” “Why is this happening?” Not to mention, they still had to finish their tour.
From the outside looking in, Jenny was very successful; but from the inside looking out, Jenny was breaking.
Something beautiful has come from this. Don’t feel despair here. I want to put in another plug for Jenny’s book, “The Road to Becoming”. It is a MUST READ. In her book she mentions many more obstacles she faced and describes it as (and I love this) giving permission to yourself to grieve a loss. I asked her, on the show, what was it that she did to overcome her obstacles and that’s exactly what she told me. “Give yourself permission to grieve, but also other people need to understand that they need to give space to people who need to grieve.” Jenny mentioned that people didn’t understand the capacity of grief she was feeling and said “Now you can be a stay at home mom.”
Okay, LIPTalk Nation, do you remember from “MY STORY” when I said, “It’s not okay to tell someone they are being selfish while they are depressed”? This is exactly what I’m talking about here. If we would have the mind set, treat others the way we want to be treated, then there would be less responses like this. Remember, hurting people hurt people. But unfortunately, people (with good intentions) still respond, (I believe from a muscle memory and not thinking) in a manner that hurts people because they have been hurt. I’ll say it again, TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED. Easy to say, but ask yourself if that is the way you are.
I absolutely love Jenny’s definition of success: “Success is that I showed up”. Meaning that singing in front of hundreds of thousands of people was awesome, but also singing at intimate concerts in coffee shops and small churches is too. It really is about showing up. What is your calling? Jenny clearly knew that God called her to communicate, So she shows up no matter the size of the audience, knowing that she is obeying God.
Love. Love. Love. What is your calling?? Are you showing up?? Are you choosing to look at your circumstances as something you can learn from? One of my many “take-aways” from Jenny’s interview is “God has already given the happily ever after. You’ve got to learn to let go of the desire for things to be put back together.”
Give yourself persimmon to grieve
Ask others to give you space to grieve
Decide to show up (no matter the circumstance you are facing)
Jenny has so much value to offer and I hope that you are able to check her episode out. You will want to take notes. Again, I highly recommend her book “The Road to Becoming” on Amazon, Barnes and Nobles or check her website out at http://www.jennysimmons.com.
She truly is living a Life In Purple.
Listen to the Interview here!
Let me know your thoughts. Looking forward to hearing how you are living your LIFE IN PURPLE. What you say is what you become.
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