On our show this week, we had Entrepreneur, Speaker, Amazing Mom, and Advocate for the Choose Courage foundation to end Domestic Violence. Faith Conaway, was one of our guest blogger’s who shared with us her story of surviving domestic violence; She knows exactly what it takes to stop the abuse. With Persistence, faith in God and an unwavering WHY, Faith has turned her brokenness into beauty. Faith believes that you CAN break the silence of abuse and become a SURVIVOR. We will hear from her the warning sings of domestic violence and how we can also raise awareness for such abuse.
Read Faith’s original blog post “Enough is Enough” here!
I hope you have had the chance to get to know Faith’s story either by reading her blog or listening to her episode. Her story is a story of Courage. She goes in to detail of some of the abuse she faced during her marriage. It may have brought you to tears, and you may have felt anger towards the person who abused her. It’s Definitely NOT fair that she experienced such abuse.
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
Maybe the hard question to answer is “Why do some people feel the need to abuse a person, (physically, emotionally, and verbally)”? In most, if not all cases, abuse is a learned behavior. If you know Faith’s story, she did confront her abuser on their wedding night, when he first laid a hand on her. She thought she was standing up for herself, in the beginning. But, because he didn’t frequently hit her, in fact very little during their relationship, he chose a different form of abuse. He chose to tare her down with his words; they were harmful words. These words, for as time would allow Faith to feel weak, insecure and worthless. How many of you can relate right now?
To top it all off, Faith was scared to tell anyone, for fear of lack of support and that no one would believe her. Many of you may be facing this very thing and if so, I challenge you to at least tell someone what you are going through even if it is a stranger. That’s what Faith challenges you to do as well. When she decided to share her story with someone, this person asked her to replay in her mind what was happening to her. You see, I believe God led her to the right person at the right time, because, Faith was waiting for someone to get hurt “bad enough”. What does that mean to you LIPTalk Nation? How many times do you need to cover bruises, lie or even go to the emergency room before you decide to end the abuse? Faith shared that she would rather be hit than to be verbally abused. He destroyed her from the inside out.
…it’s about one human being abusing another human being.
Now the abuse can come from women as well. It’s not about a man abusing a woman, but it’s about a person abusing another person. In my house, my kids say “human”. I love this perspective too. So it’s about one human being abusing another human being. NOT OKAY!! It simply isn’t. For far too long, such topics as domestic violence, sexual abuse and even teen pregnancy has been taboo and not talked about, at least in the light of how to heal from it and how to raise awareness. That’s exactly what we want to do at Life In Purple. We want to talk about the issues. We want to raise awareness for abuse and tragedies so people can heal. We all crave hope. We all crave healing.
How dare we say someone deserves the abuse?? That’s exactly the kind of attitude and statements Faith received. Why is it difficult for people to treat others the way they want to be treated? It isn’t about what a person deserves. I believe that God gives mercy to people. The fact is we all deserve HIS punishment. It is NOT up to us to assume God’s role and punish others. Where is the line? Until the line is defined, Treat other’s the way you want to be treated. Period.
How dare we say someone deserves the abuse??
I’m so proud of Faith for saying “Enough is Enough”. Yes, She confronted her abuser, on many occasions, to get help. Many occasions. I repeat this because it has also been said that she didn’t confront him. If you were not there, do not assume. We ALL know what assuming means right???? It often leads to embarrassment.
Faith shared with us the warning signs of being in an abusive relationship. I ask that you don’t take these warning signs lightly. I also ask that you don’t use them as a “Get out of your marriage because you have issues” card either. WE all need to educate ourselves on domestic violence and other abuses so we know exactly what to do. TALK about it. Don’t suppress.
I love that Faith also says positive affirmations. “I am enough.” “God’s love is enough.” “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” So important to speak life to yourself after experiencing such a negative environment for so long. Her final message to LIPTalk nation, “There is Hope.” Faith has had the honor of working closely with a new non profit called, “Choose Courage Foundation” helping women recover from domestic violence.
Faith is now using her story to help countless people begin their journey of survival. Let’s all raise awareness TOGETHER.
STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
*This episode is to HELP raise awareness for domestic violence and not to be used as a tool to get OUT of your marriage just because you have issues. Domestic violence IS a serious offense and Faith has challenged us to educate ourselves on such a matter.
What you say is what you become.
Listen to Faith’s episode here!
Thank you for reading this blog on Life In Purple. Where the broken can heal and the successful can conquer. If you’re thinking that this blog was just for you, or you have a story to share that connects with other blogs or episodes, I would LOVE to hear from you. Send me a quick email to Laura@lauraspragg.com or check out our website at www.liptalknation.com. Let’s all rise together and create a community that stops the negative talk. We ARE wonderfully made. What you say is what you become.
Laura Spragg is a speaker and the host of the growing podcast and blog: Life in Purple – A place that fosters the journey of new perspectives, renewed energy, and a passion to be the best version of ourselves. Visit our Website or Facebook page to learn more… who doesn’t want a little extra positive in their life?