What a week we have had LIPTalk Nation!!! Your voice is getting louder and we are becoming STRONGER!!! Our fan page hit over 1,000 likes and we have over 7,500 plays for our podcast. This week I also had the awesome privilege to interview International Speaker, Author, Coach and Co-Founder of Loving ON Purpose, Danny Lee Silk. He has such a unique and profound perspective on how to love. Basically, he teaches people how to keep it on. If you haven’t had a chance to listen, do it now, then come back and read my thoughts. His interview just might ROCK YOUR WORLD and stir up something inside of you to be a better person.
If this is your first time reading my blog, then I want to reach out to you and say, “Welcome”! I love to simplify information. So that’s what I do. This blog is a recap of Danny’s episode and my personal take away’s. If you’re already a follower, I want to say “Your support means the world to me and I’m sending you a high five”!
Like I said, Danny has a unique and profound perspective on how to love. His story is fascinating. He’s vulnerability was refreshing and encourage. In fact, after 12 years of marriage, they took a compatibility test and the results were, “IF at all possible, these two people should not get married”. Oh the things that make you go, hmmmmmm. Danny admits that the first 15 years of marriage were pretty difficult. After all, the example he and his wife both had were set by their parents who had 15 marriages between them. The good news, He and his wife have beaten the odds and are now sharing from their own experience how to “Keep Your Love On.”
Okay, here it is…. The most valuable lesson’s I learned from interviewing Danny.
LOVE IS THE ENEMY OF FEAR
One of the first questions I asked Danny was, “why does fear cause people to not love or even trust a person…” His response, “We all have a deep desire to be loved. We experience anxiety leave our life when we feel loved. God created us to Love. Love is the enemy of fear.” He also explained that when we feel like we are not good enough for love, especially when a person has experienced rejection, that it is important to find a source of unconditional love. “Jesus and the Gospel changed my life; don’t confuse a Jesus connection with going to church and the people of the church.” I have found this to be true in my personal life. When I hit rock bottom, I had to find the source of unconditional love. Which was also through Jesus.
“…don’t confuse a Jesus connection with going to church and the people of the church.”
When a person feels punished or shame, anxiety is at it’s highest. In healthy relationships, people protect their priorities, surround themselves with people who know how to love and learn how to point their life to what they have stewardship over. So, basically, the simple answer to this question… is we need to experience a source of unconditional love, which then your life is energized…. LOVE OR FEAR?? I haven’t met anyone who likes feeling fear. Have you?? So maybe we should put to practice what Danny is teaching us.
THE ANTIDOTE TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP IS CONNECTION
Throughout my interview with Danny the phrase “the goal should be to connect” kept coming up. I asked him some tough questions too, about intimacy and being a mom of small children. Danny gave me a lot to think about, especially as a wife and mom. He said that how we demonstrate love could be a learned behavior from our parents. He challenges our definition of love. Do we think that we need to be able to control our spouse, kids or even friends?? To have a successful relationship, according to Danny, is that both people’s goal should be to connect and not control. If that is the goal of the relationship, then it has a 100% success rate. SIMPLE RIGHT?? If only we all thought this way. Danny said that if he could have a super power it would be able to restore relationships. What I find even more fascinating is that Danny leads by example…. Meaning when I asked him about positive affirmations he said that he cultivates a life-giving self talk. Seriously, if you haven’t listened to the episode, you need to now!!! If your are trying to control the person, no matter the relationship, the relationship will be destroyed. There you have it in simple terms. CONNECT NOT CONTROL!!!!
If your are trying to control the person, no matter the relationship, the relationship will be destroyed.
To learn more about Danny Lee Silk and his wonderful ministries visit: Loving on Purpose.
Also would like to give a quick shout out to Crystal George at Crystal George Studios for the great cover photo, she has a great talent and a heart for people.
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