Pumpkin everything is in full swing, Thanksgiving is around the corner and Christmas is the topic of conversation with my kids.  “Mommy, I want today to be Christmas!” (both of them say this) My reply? “Me too”.  I figure if I respond this way, it saves a long drawn out conversation of what I feel like would be me repeating myself.  So, “If you can’t beat them, join them.”
*I say this with all due respect to those who might over analyze that last statement.  All I’m really saying, is I LOVE CHRISTMAS too, and I choose my battles.  

This week has been an exceptional week.  I started off by interviewing a man who practices daily, serving others.  Stephen Scoggins, founder of Journey Principles, totally blew my mind when it comes to the simple steps he gave to overcoming fear and anxiety; not to mention, I love his energy!!  Before I give my own mind blowing take-away, you can listen to his interview over and over again here…..




Are you ready for it?? My personal mind blowing take-away for this past week’s episode?  Well, after listening and reflecting on Stephen’s perspective of fear and anxiety and how we can stop living in the past or the future, which by the way has become an epidemic, the thought occurred to me, “What would that look like if we broke up with fear and stopped having anxiety attacks?”


Seriously, I’m proposing the question to you.  If we can break up with a person why not a mindset? All to often, we allow fear and anxiety to consume our thoughts, from thinking that we’re not good enough, what if something bad happens to us, or by the constant repetition of saying “I can’t”.  Stephen passionately said, “You will never overcome fear by avoiding it.” How many of us are guilty of avoiding something just to pretend something didn’t happen.


This has become my biggest pet peeve… The Avoidance Factor.  First of all, it’s not healthy both physically and mentally to avoid something; even if you think it’s not a big deal.  When avoidance becomes a practice, at least from my experience, dooms day is sure to follow.

Some symptoms I experienced by practicing the Avoidance Factor which lead to fear and anxiety.
(*these are the symptoms I personally had, so I am not diagnosing or treating when you read these….)

bad attitude
physical pain
Panic attacks

Now these are only some of things that I experienced when I let fear and anxiety control my life; but, don’t you think that list is enough for a person to want to break up with fear?  So maybe now you are ready to break up with fear and you’re wondering how you would do this…. Well, Stephen did give us a few acronyms to helps us along our journey in healing.


*5 Action Steps for Overcoming Fear and Learning TRUST

Take Action
Release Control
Unarm Yourself
Serve Others
Talk (Share with others)

*5 Action Steps for Overcoming Fear and Maintaining FAITH

Fix Your Eyes on Jesus
Incorporate Action Steps
Track Your Measurable Results
Honor One Another

(*Found in Stephen’s ebook: The journey Principles, 10 Simple Principles For a Life Journey that Matters)

Stephen clearly pointed out that if we decide to take action and lean into conflict that we give ourselves permission to resolve conflict.  Perhaps resolve is one of my favorite words.  I think it’s because of the freedom and peace you find in your soul when you no longer avoid conflict.


Are you living in fear?  Do you have high anxiety?  I may know the answer to this, but going to ask it anyway…. Do you like living in fear and having anxiety? I believe we are all created with intelligence and when we free our minds of suppression, we free our minds for innovation.  Maybe it’s time that YOU tell fear and anxiety, “I’m sorry, It’s not you… it’s me; I think we should break up.”  Oh the things that make you go, hmmmmmm…… If Stephen can do it, so can you.

To find out more about Stephen Scoggins and what he does visit and his newly released site He Rocks at living a Life In Purple.

Thank you for reading this blog on Life In Purple.  Where the broken can heal and the successful can conquer.  If you’re thinking that this blog was just for you, or you have a story to share that connects with other blogs or episodes,  I would LOVE to hear from you.  Send me a quick email to or check out our website at Let’s all rise together and create a community that stops the negative talk.  We ARE wonderfully made.  What you say is what you become.

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Laura Spragg is a speaker and the host of the growing podcast and blog: Life in Purple – A place that fosters the journey of new perspectives, renewed energy, and a passion to be the best version of ourselves. Visit our Website or Facebook page to learn more… who doesn’t want a little extra positive in their life?

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